This is a sexual crime on a whole other level:
undercover UK police officer deceived woman into 19-year relationship.
'Mary' met a man in 2001. He was 'charismatic but quiet' and they started dating in the early 2000s. He 'tried to win the family over', bringing her mum flowers and helping her dad when he needed a new car among other things. They had a serious, long-term relationship, and after a few years they had a son.
The man, who is not named or given a pseudonym, made 'Mary' believe that he was a businessman. In fact, he was an undercover police officer. There is no evidence that he was investigating Mary or anyone in her family, yet he used a fake identity for the entirety of their relationship, even using it on the birth certificate of their son.
In 2020 they got engaged and it was at this point that 'Mary' finally learned the truth.
In contrast, Avon and Somerset police, who were his employers, knew about the relationship in 2013. Around the same time, he left the police. Why and whether the relationship had anything to do with his departure is unclear. What is clear, is that the police didn't tell 'Mary' for another SEVEN YEARS. When they did, they "consistently put pressure" on the family to not speak publicly about the relationship, "warning of the risk of social unrest if the news got out".
The family have now concluded that they have been manipulated twice by police. First by an undercover officer who inveigled his way into their lives using a fake identity, in an extraordinarily callous intrusion that has irrevocably changed their lives. And latterly by his superiors, who have put pressure on them to collude in what the family allege is a cover-up.
I have no words.